Self-Esteem Therapy

What is Self-Esteem?

Self-esteem when used in a psychological context refers to an individual’s overarching sense of self-worth, confidence, or simply how they value themselves.

Self esteem involves a combination of beliefs about oneself, including emotions, behavior, and appearance. Self-esteem and confidence can be raised through therapy.

Many people are often described as having self-esteem that is either ‘high’ or ‘low’. Sometimes, people find that their self-esteem varies depending on the situation. If you are experiencing Low self-esteem and/or self-esteem of ‘ups and downs’, then therapy is an excellent way to gain understanding about what causes you to have low-self-esteem and the "highs and lows". Therapy helps you learn positive realistic authentic self-esteem and feel confident to cope with challenges and disappointments.

Healthy self esteem is about feeling secure that you can handle situations, and life’s challenges, and that you deserve to experience love and acceptance from others as well as from yourself.

Self-esteem and confidence = authentic self-love and compassion

The most important relationship you will ever have is the relationship with yourself. When your relationship with yourself is out of whack, all other aspects of your life will be out of whack too. Such as, your self-esteem, confidence, motivation, relationships with others, ability to make decisions, your performance, creativity, success, and your emotional and physical health. When your relationship with yourself is out of whack, you may find yourself constantly seeking validation outside yourself.

Symptoms of Low Self-Esteem: thoughts, emotions, behaviors

People with low-self esteem have a negative, disapproving view of themselves and an inability to look beyond their limitations and problems. Furthermore, those with low self-esteem frequently engage in criticism of themselves and others. People with low self-esteem can sometimes overreact when they are criticized, engage in self-sabotage and self-destructive behavior, and sacrifice their identity to fit in. Additionally, individuals with low self-worth may avoid reality and situations. It is common for someone who has low-self esteem to also have episodes of depression,  social anxiety , panic attacks  and may also have a personality disorder .

The effect of low self-esteem on the individual varies from person to person. However,  the affects of low self-esteem often includes a pessimistic outlook, a tendency to engage in obsessive activities, indecisiveness, and a focus on failures, shame, weaknesses, and setbacks. Additionally, a person who lacks confidence may put himself or herself down in a joking or serious manner.

Have you ever had thoughts, such as, “I am not good enough”… “Why try, I wont succeed”…”I wont be liked or accepted”. Have you ever worried that others will pull away if they see you the way you perceive yourself? Have you ever had such negative thoughts about yourself that you ultimately end up hurting your own feelings? If self-negating thoughts sound like you. You are your harshest critic, and nobody deserves to be their own bully!

When your self-talk is a bully, then low self esteem hits very hard and rolls over into “self imposed” resistance. “Self-imposed” resistance is your greatest enemy masquerading as fears, anxiety, depression, unmotivated, lost or directionless, negative binge thinking, limiting beliefs, and limiting your success in life. It can affect every aspect of your life, for example, relationships, school, work, physical and emotional health.  Quit beating yourself up because you are not where you thought you would be. You are not done.

Sometimes, you recognize that it’s not normal to keep beating yourself up.

If you don’t love yourself, then you can’t escape the negative self-talk long enough to show yourself compassion. You may even be in a relationship that you know is toxic, but are fearful to leave because you fear being alone.

Low self-esteem can trigger many emotional and behavioral problems, such as, social anxiety, panic attacks, depression, and behaviors such as addictions, withdrawal from others, isolation, giving up, not trying, hopeless, and thwarting your dreams.

How do you gather strength and regain your confidence? How do you create self-confidence if you never felt that you had self-worth, or worse yet, you question if you really deserve an awesome life?

What do you want to do with your precious life?

Improving Self Esteem and Building Confidence through Psychotherapy, Counseling, and Support. 

I can help you regain or develop your self-esteem. I can help you heal the most important relationship of all – the one you have with yourself. Psychotherapy and Counseling sessions will be an integral for identifying your issues, your roadblocks, and implementing various methods to remove them. On going support and coaching will also be provided.

The best methods vary from person to person, but generally a combination of spending time together to understand what you are experiencing, as well as how you came to feel that way is the best place to start.

Imagine meeting someone who wants to know your past, not to judge you, but to understand how you needed to be accepted.

Once this understanding is in place, we can work together on customized exercises intended to bolster your self esteem and self confidence in ways that are most suitable for you.

As you up gain confidence, we can return to a period of exploration and reflection in which we identify areas where you may continue to struggle. We can set to work on those areas too. Improving self esteem and building confidence is a process.  It requires patience, perseverance, persistance. It sometimes involves ‘aha magic moments’ in which your perspective changes and your sense of possibility is expanded. The important thing is to keep trying and know that you will experience gains if you continue to give yourself time and space, as well as therapeutic support.

Owning your story and loving yourself authentically through the process is the bravest and most loving thing you will ever do.

Are you ready to live your precious life to your fullest potential?
Say, “YES” !

Are you ready to connect with me and become a self-love warrior and a badass SuperSoul ?
Say, “YES” !
Then, get ready to…

  • Be crazy enough to know you can do anything you want in Life
  • Dissolve your greatest enemy: self-imposed resistance
  • Discover your unique value and personal strengths
  • Set realistic goals for yourself and accentuate the positive aspects of your life.
  • Rise up the self-love warrior that resides within
  • Gain healthy perception of your self-worth
  • Up gain your confidence
  • Prioritize yourself and your needs
  • Cultivate positive self-talk
  • Learn self-care strategies
  • Contribute something and give back to your community
  • Status improvement which could mean finding a niche skill in which you excel
  • Set boundaries and say “no” to toxic people in your life
  • Become more assertive, stop “people pleasing” the wrong people.
  • Learn healthy boundaries with self and others
  • Ignite the power and strengths within your diamond SuperSoul

Are you ready?
Say, “YES”
“I AM”

The order in which these skills are presented is individualized to your needs and interests. If you would like to receive  anxiety therapy,  and depression therapy, or stress management counseling, Then, I help with this too. Therapy sessions can be completed during live in-office visits, and/or by video conferencing for individuals who live far away, travel,  or are simply too busy to take time off for travel to office.

Ready to ignite,
Dr. Shawna